Lesson #1

In March of 2012, I was at a karaoke night with some friends. While there, we met a group of guys my friends knew. We played pool, one of the guys tried to help me with my shot (it didn't work), and they scattered when cops were driving by. Apparently they were only 20! Bah! After they left, they texted one of my friends and told her that their friend, let's call him *Andy, thought I was cute and wanted my number. I let her give it to him.

We texted almost everyday for six weeks. He would always text me in the morning and tell me to "Have a good day." I liked knowing he was thinking about me. We talked about racing and random things.  We tried meeting at least half a dozen times, but he always had an excuse to stand me up. He had to drive the ambulance; now, I totally understand this one and respect his choice of being a fireman/ambulance driver. However, the I didn't have a vehicle, I had to shovel the sidewalk, and the no explanations at all, did not fly with me. Every time he stood me up, he would call and talk to me like he knew I was upset. Of course I was!

Towards the end, he called me up, he had been drinking, and was telling me how laid back and cool I was. He thought something else, too, but didn't want to say. I told him since he brought it up, he had to say. He said, "I can totally see us having a relationship." Ha ha! I told him we needed to see each other to have a relationship.

We made plans for him to come over a few days later, and he was going to grill venison for me. I had a suspicion, because of past practice, that I was going to be stood up again, so I had chicken fried rice planned for supper. The time he was supposed to show up came and went so I began cooking. I ate my supper, and sent him some very angry texts. I told him I was not as laid back as he thought because I was very upset. He texted back, "So you don't want me to come over?" Bah. I didn't get an excuse for the tardiness that time. I was just over it. However, I did miss the texts each morning. I liked being on someone's mind.

Lesson Learned: I want, I DESERVE, respect. Respect of being talked to on a regular basis. Respect of being called when plans can't be maintained. Coming to my door to pick me up, walking me to the door when the night is over. R.E.S.P.E.C.T.